Who Am I?


Some of us hate being alone more than Squidward hates Patrick and Spongebob or Mr. Turner hates Dinkleberg.

But time alone can be great!!!!! Being single for some extended time (ahem!!! Five years) has taught me sooooo much about myself. I could’ve easily moved back into a relationship, it’s not that opportunities haven’t presented themselves, I've just decided not to settle. I’ll talk about that next week.

Anyway, when you’re in a relationship you tend to mold yourself around who that person is, their likes and dislikes, and that’s not always a bad thing depending on how much a person transforms themselves. It’s always good to change for the better, but I know as well as anyone what it’s like to change yourself for someone so much that you forget who you even are.

Time away from relationships can put away the pressure to impress someone. So now you get to do the things you enjoy.

When I was alone, I started writing again. I published my first book and then kept going.

I started to travel and realized I loved it. I used to be afraid to travel or be out on my own.

I went to grad school and moved out of my comfort zone.

I no longer felt the pressure of having to change every part of who I am to impress a guy.

The list could go on and on.

I'm a big advocate of sometimes taking an extended break from relationships, especially if you realize you've never been content without one. It can be a time to figure out the mistakes you made in a previous relationship, heal from toxic relationships, spend time with family and friends, and most importantly, GROW WITH GOD.

I'm so grateful for the time I took to heal from bad relationships, to recognize my mistakes and to grow from that. I'm much healthier for the next man. I'm sure he won't mind that I took time to myself.

#singleness

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