21 Lessons- Unload that Baggage


I have 21 weeks left until I get married, and 21 lessons I've been learning along the way. The first lesson I'll share is to unload as much baggage as you can pre-marriage. I often hear girls and women gush about the future man they'll meet and all that they hope he will be. Most of the conversation is about how amazing he'll be that the conversation hardly touches what they will bring to the table as well. Somehow many believe their life will fall into place once they get married. This is such a fantasy, and actually I'll use a stronger word and call it a deception. If you have bad habits, bad mindsets, sin cycles and patterns as a single, they will MAGNIFY once you get in a relationship and eventually get married. I never realized how detrimental complaining, or just having anxious thoughts, could be to my relationships. They had been habit for so long that I didn't think much of them, until I started to see how they affected the people I love. A lot of people will ask me what they should do as a single who wants to eventually meet someone and get married. I didn't really know what to tell my fellow Christian sisters. I still don't know what to say much of the time. I'm not a relationship guru, I don't know where you can go to meet someone. I'm still trying to figure out how Micah even happened lol!

My biggest advice however would be to keep walking with the Lord and in obedience to his word. I know every single has heard this quote preached to them 1,000,000 times, but this will be the 1,000,001th time.

"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you."- Matthew 6:33 ESV

This scripture holds TRUE. Continue to seek that first and grow in righteousness, faith, love, joy, peace, gentleness, and patience. Whether or not you eventually meet the man of your dreams, this is the only sure way to make sure that you have a healthy relationship with him. I did A LOT of unloading before I had ever met Micah, but I realized how much more I had to do daily, after I met him. That's the beauty of relationships, but also the really hard part that people don't talk about sometimes, and it sure doesn't get captured in the photos that make it to the highlight reel that we call Instagram.

I have a beautiful relationship and I'm so happy, but I've learned every day to work at it, by first working on myself. :)


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